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Introvert Or Extrovert? Does It Affect Your Sex Life?

I’m a highly social animal. Being around people stimulates me, sometimes shocks me out of “the blahs” and generally makes me feel good. In my business, freelance writing, being extroverted helps because I can’t stay on top of what’s happening in the city if I don’t go out. And if I don’t go out, to new places to meet new people, there are no new ideas for articles and stories.

My boyfriend, the filmmaker, is a genius is this regard. He’s the first man I’ve ever been with who is MORE social than I am! He knows literally EVERYBODY! Gosh, this turns me on! I can mention a random name from a meeting I had in 2001, and my boyfriend will know the guy. If there’s a crowd standing outside a club where this week’s media event is taking place, my man will know seven of ten people. He can introduce me to anybody I want to meet, but this is a far cry from what I’m used to.

The last guy I dated, for example, would always lecture me about things that made him feel out of his “comfort zone.” He liked to do the same things, every day, day in and day out, at the same places with the same couple of people. Yawn. I mean, this is fine, if it’s what you’re into, but I don’t know if a very introverted person matched with a very extroverted person is a very good idea.

On Wednesday, I blogged about sex toys and that anything you can imagine can be seen as a toy, if it gets you going, keeps things spicy and makes you enjoy sex even more. Well, the fact that my boyfriend stimulates me by taking me to new places and introducing me to new people, and doesn’t let that element of our relationship rest solely on my shoulders (as it was in the past), certainly puts our social life in that category. There are some nights that after a party or event, all I want to do is jump on him. Watching him work a room is the best foreplay I’ve experienced in quite some time. I even feel comfortable sometimes being the one in the background.

Bringing a shy guy out of his shell can be a turn-on and opposites do attract, but for me, its a much more lasting turn-on to be with someone cut from the same cloth as I am.

What do you think?


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