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Just looking for The One.

Single woman take a lot of heat.  They're told they're too picky, too desperate, trying too hard or not hard enough.  They are flooded by stories about how men don't want smart girls, or independent girls, or fat girls, or older girls.  Or whatever else some story-starved feature writer came up with that week.

Man, that's all bunch of flapdoodle.

(This is a no cursing zone... and the first thesaurus listing for the word I didn't just use was "absurdity" and the first synonym listed was - I kid you not - "applesauce."  I decided to go with flapdoodle.)

So.  Considering the flood of flapdoodle I found myself floundering in a while back, I wrote something I'd like to share here.  Because those guys that don't want you?  You're not looking for them anyway.


There will always be men.

There will always be smart men who want airheads.

There will always be tall men who want beanpoles.

There will always be men who don’t want a woman their age.

There will always be men who don’t want a woman with hips.

There will always be men who want a housewife.

There will always be men who want a model.

There will always be men who don’t find me pretty.

(No man will ever not find me funny.)

There will always be more men, and some of them…

Well, there will always be men who Just Aren’t Into Me.

There always have been, and there always will be. It has nothing to do with me.

My age, the date, my face, my weight.

There will always be men who aren’t looking for me.

But then, I’m not looking for them either.

He won’t be like that at all.


What traits do you have that those mysterious single men out there "don't want"?  Or rather, what traits do you have that your special someone absolutely will want?


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