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Who's Ready to Talk About Sex?

I just came back from an incredible weekend at BlogHer '06 where I had the opportunity to speak on a panel entitled, "Let's Talk About Sex". (And I also got a chance to meet fellow SexySmart Blogger Liz Rizzo, who by the way, is as cool in person as she is online). While I was a blogging novice in comparison to the other 699 women who attended BlogHer, my experience there crystallized what I have known and believed in for years. Women have a responsibility to talk about sex.

(And by that I do not mean that you should tell the world about your sex lives, per se (though you definitely can). What I mean is that by not sharing our experiences with our bodies, our feelings, our gender, our desires, sex, pregnancy, motherhood, and so on (all of which are part and parcel of the big umbrella "sexuality"), we remain in the closet (so to speak) - we feel alone - as if no other person understands what we are going through.

We have a responsibility to tell the truth - not just for ourselves - but for men who cannot possibly understand (for obvious anatomical and hormonal reasons) how we work, both in and out of bed. Yes, we are different animals altogether. And when it comes to sex, we can't expect them to get it right. We have to start talking about what we want, what feels good, why we are crying at a dopey commercial, and what (and where) the clitoris is!

So now it's your turn. What are some things that you are dying to share with other women? Or what do you think men need to know about us that they can't learn in a textbook?

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You were such an inspiration to listen to on that panel. It was one of my favorite parts of BlogHer '06!

Your poise, intelligence, and ingsight merge to create a powerful force to be reckoned with! I have no doubt that you've debated with the best of them.

Thank you for your enlightening conversation and powerful message. I hope more women take you as an example and speak up - in all areas of their lives.


Hi Logan,

It was so great to meet you, too, and hang out! :)

Reading this post, I was reminded of this thing I heard once where this guy interviewed all these woman about how they like oral sex and all the responses were contradictory. He was like, how are we ever supposed to know what to do, but for me the moral of the story = we all need communication, cause everyone is so wonderfully unique!

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