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The Pleasure of Condoms

So it seems that people are finally realizing that safe sex can be pleasurable. Wow, are we on to something or what? (total sarcasm here). "Making safer sex sexy" seems to be the latest wave in sexuality education. And thank goodness! What have we been waiting for?

At the 16th International AIDS Conference displays of erotic art, how-to-workshops, and other provocative (yet informative) dialogues were all the rage...isn't it about time?

Those of us in the field know that the only way to get people excited about protection is show them how much fun it can be. There seems to be a pervasive attitude in this world that condoms are not  pleasurable. Where did this come from? When I grew up (not all that long ago), using condoms was so ingrained in my peers (and me) that we would never have considered sex without one. Now it seems that using condoms is well, voluntary. (Yes, I do recognize that using condoms is voluntary, but there has been a significant change in the perception of risk, making condoms less utilized).

So there are two issues on the table here - first, condoms can feel good - physically and emotionally. Nowadays, condoms have better lubes, thinner latex (and non-latex alternatives), and accoutrements like vibrating rings (which are terrific, BTW). And yes, there is also a mental component to sex. I can assure you - if you are not protected - and are constantly thinking, "Is this going to be the time I contract an STD (or get pregnant)?", then no matter how good it is, it ain't going to be great. Your worries (and good ones at that) will get the best of you.

Wouldn't you rather swing from the chandeliers knowing that you are as protected as you can be, and with that, free to experience total pleasure? I sure would.

So how would you make safe sex sexy? How do you do it in your own lives?

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