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Boy Toys Revenge: The Double Standard…Part 1

Ever have a boy toy?

Boy Toy(s), noun: 1. That fun guy you just like to hang loose and have electrifying sex with but know nothing serious will ever happen because he’s 10 years younger/got an I.Q of 35/destined for prison. And that’s all right.

Sure you have.

Either it was a boy in high school or college that you can barely remember or something on the side while you were engaged to that nerdy, boring accountant with the nervous tic, or its somebody you’re with now, but you’ve had one. I’ve had them too.

Instant animal attraction, hot car, zero obligations, late-night rendezvous, passion, spontaneity, mystery, who cares if he’s uneducated, fun, fun, fun, blowjobs at the movies, never meeting the parents and if you do its all a huge joke, laughter, too many martini weeknights, irresistible pheromones still on the sheets on mornings after, breathless, hazy, perfect remedy for a horrible breakup, delicious kisses, no promises, hands through the hair, getting out of yourself, perfection.

It is an art. It takes practice. Sounds like I’m an expert, but I’ve never been particularly good at it. I have a reputation for being cool and standoffish that has nagged me since middle school, but damn if I can’t just do a hot boy and then throw him directly in the trash! I should be able to. I wish I could. I’m even willing to give up another cherished talent of the devil’s choice, to just once experience the feeling of freedom I suspect comes from having the focus to screw ‘em and be through with ‘em! I guess its akin to the envy some women feel toward those with thinner thighs or better public speaking skills, I envy the players.

I’ll probably never have the “perfect one-night-stand.” Guys have learned to love being sex objects and perhaps this is the issue. If they all wanted a girl to love and cherish them, to the very end, it may be easier to dump them immediately. My inner sadist can’t come through when deep down, I’m thinking the no-attachments arrangement is something he wants as much or more than I do. Chasing the bigger orgasm is fun unless he’s on his way to another woman’s house right after he leaves yours. Oh, well. It can be fun while it lasts.

Just don’t get too close…

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Men have feelings too. I'm not saying men don't treat women this way, and its wrong. If this site is supposed to be progressive or at least have real world ideas, men or women should not be reduced to objects. Also, saying "something on the side while you were engaged to that nerdy, boring accountant" like it is acceptable to cheat on your partner. Sexuality is not about having the most orgasms you can or lasting as long as you can. This article is a joke. Part 2 had better make a valid point.
I mean read what is written:
"I envy the players."
" damn if I can’t just do a hot boy and then throw him directly in the trash! I should be able to. I wish I could."
"Guys have learned to love being sex objects and perhaps this is the issue"
wow....

Boy toys have their place in society. And one shouldn't be ashamed of said toy, however, as you point out, it's probably not the best idea to develop feelings without discussing it with boytoy. The minute you do (and let's face it, we do develop more feelings when we (women) have sex) fess up and talk it out before you get hurt. Looking forward to part II

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