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Seven Reasons It's Great to Be Single

This weekend, I was looking down the barrel of single.  A year ago, I wrote about all the things I enjoy about being single.  And even though The Boyfriend and I are still together, it seemed like a great time to review.

So after the break, my seven reasons it's great to be single.

1.  I revel in the sense of possibility.  At every event I intend, in every workday, on every hike, at every dance, in every game, there is the possibility that I could meet him, that I could connect with him.  I love that I am free and healthy and ready for that opportunity.

2.  I enjoy being a single, 30-something woman in Los Angeles and writing about this life experience.  I have a bad habit of being a bit of an experience whore (e.g., I could leave this totally offensive show at The Roxy... or, I could stay and ride out the experience and see where it goes...), but this particular instance is at least rewarding, and I hope helpful and/or entertaining to those of you reading in some small way.

3.  I enjoy cultivating female friendships and sisterhood.  The irony of my life right now is that I joined a sorority in undergrad because most of my friends were guys and I thought it would be healthy and interesting to have more female friends, and now, most of my L.A. friends are women.  I've spent more time doing things with groups of women in the past three years than I have in the whole rest of my life, including my undergrad sorority years.  (That's thirty-one years if you're keeping track.)  Honestly, sometimes it's too much estrogen for this bat channel, but overall, it's pretty cool.

4.  I'm beyond thankful that I am not in a messed up, miserable relationship and that I never did get married.  I've used my time in singlehood as an opportunity to grow and figure things out, and it's been invaluable.  This ties into item 1, since I feel confident that when I do start a new relationship, it will be for the right reasons.  I also feel confident in what qualities I'm looking for and that I'll know him when I throw him down on the ground and ravish see him.

5.  When I am hurt or judged by a man, it's not anyone I'm in love with, and that's kinda nice.  Partners in a relationship do hurt each other sometimes, and while that's part of life and part of developing intimacy, it's not part of my life right now, and that's cool.

6.  I like being able to focus primarily on me and my goals for now.  As easily and joyously as my focus expands to include another, I can't deny that there's power and joy in All Me, All The Time.

7.  In these past three years I have had the strongest sense of this time in my life being fleeting.  That I will look back on the relative ease of these years (even with the painful drama) and smile.  My brain says, this "time" could last forever, you could easily never get an opportunity to direct and never meet your partner in crime, but my instincts feel that this time is fleeting and my heart feels it should be cherished for the joys it holds.  So I do.


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