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Sick Boyfriend Needs Chicken Soup

The Boyfriend has a horrible cold right now.  We went to a Halloween party on Saturday night and played a board game with friends on Sunday night - meanwhile he's sneezing.  And sneezing.  And sneezing.

So he stayed home from work today, and he was just so sick!  And here's where me not being in a relationship for awhile before this and also being completely life-slammed right now kicks in and confuses me.

First, I offered to run to the store after work and bring him whatever he needed.  But I was also tired and really wanting to go straight home and get some work done there.  But I also wanted to run straight to him and spend the night hanging out.  And I also wanted to make sure he was OK.

At one point, I called and said I was just going to go home unless he needed something, in which case I would bring him stuff.

But I ended up picking up chicken soup for us both to have for dinner.  And tissues.  I just knew he'd need more tissues.  Not that that was some great act of psychic ability!

When we decided I was bringing over chicken soup, The Boyfriend said, "But I know you have so much stuff to do."

Yeah, but Sick Boyfriend isn't something that happens every day.  So I brought him chicken soup.

I'm thinking:  Good Call.


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Hi Onafatima,

Well, I'm seriously worried about a boyfriend who won't respect your request to use condoms. Try to imagine if he came to you with a similar request. Would you refuse? Don't you want to be with someone who respects you as much as you respect them? Remember, you never have to have sex if you don't want to, and if you don't want to have sex without a condom, then don't.

Here's idea to try, though. Maybe see if he'll try sex with a condom "for fun." As something new. Maybe get a ribbed one and tell him you want to see how it feels. Perhaps if he tries it once he'll see that it's not a big deal?

Honestly, I once was really against condoms, thinking that sex "wasn't as good" with them. It's really not true. As for the pause required to get it out of the drawer and open, a little extra oral attention for him can fill that pause right up in a way he can't possibly have a problem with!

I've been with my boyfriend for three years and we've never used condoms. Fortunately, I have never contracted any STDs, but I hate wondering after sex if this is the time that I'll get something. I hate it! So last night I told him that I would like to use condoms for now on and he disagreed. He doesn't think he should have to use protection with a girlfriend. I think this is ridiculous, and his carelessness scares me. What should I do?

The sneezing cold is the worst.

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