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How Big is Too Big?

Today on the Today Show, we talked about May-December relationships, or as I like to call them "March-September" romances, as people are living longer, healthier lives. But how large of an age gap is too large? Is there such a thing as age incompatibility?

I am all for exhausting all of your options on the quest to find love. Why cut off an entire population of potentially wonderful suitors or suitor-ettes, just because their aren't a generational peer? Granted there are some issues that can come up in these relationships (in fact, I just wrote an IVillage article on the topic) including power struggles and inequality and sexual health and the aging process. But just because issues exist doesn't mean that couples with an age disparity can't survive.

Now I know what you are thinking...there are many people out there who marry older men (or women) for the money. Yes, that may be true for some, but those aren't the relationships I am talking about. There is no way that I would support a relationship that was built solely on financial gain. So I ask you...golddigging old is too old? How young is too young?

Who have you been dating?

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I think it really does depend on the person and what their environment, culture and society dictate. I've dated a guy that was 16 years older than me before...but the relationship was fraught with all kinds of issues that have since led me to stay more in the 3-10 year older than me mark.

I read an article once that said women mature faster than their male counterparts at a rate of about 2.5 years. So add that to your age to find your mature equal...(ok, it's a stupid theory---but I do adopt a few stupid

Anyway, numbers aside... I would just want someone that understands what my generation is going through, someone that isn't patronizing and treating me as if i'm a child, and someone that respects me as an independent, responsible adult.

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