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Sexy: In the Attitude or in the Jeans?

I have to say, I'm surprised we haven't covered it before...but seeing as the word "Sexy" is in the first half of this blog's name, I think it's about time to talk about what "sexy" really means.

While reading Liz Rizzo's post, Size 12 is Not Fat, I got to thinking. What is sexier? A curvy woman who devours food the same way she devours her partners? Or a bony, calorie-consumed girl who spends the majority of her time asking her partner, "Do I Look Fat?" only to turn him off to sex with her altogether...because she keeps the lights off and can't give herself over to fully experience pleasure?

Yeah, I am going to guess that sexy isn't about weight, size, or cellulite. Sexy is an attitude and has more to do with how you approach life than whether or not you resemble a Victoria's Secret model. That being said, I too have had my moments when the media's representation of beauty gets the best of me and I recite those three hated words, "I'm so fat". (Though I am not proud of it).

So be it. After being pregnant, after turning thirty, after finding realizing that sexy has absolutely nothing to do with whether you look like a porn star, I am content and appreciative of the woman I have become. I don't second guess my decisions, I speak with authority, and nine out of ten times I like what I see in the mirror (yes, we are all entitled to a bloated moment here and there). But what makes me feel sexy is that I am smart, I am determined, and I won't let anyone stop me.

What is sexy to you? Is it the size of your jeans or is it something bigger?

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