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Do You Like to Watch? Do You Care if He Does?

Today I was asked if I was okay with my partner going to strip clubs. I thought about it for a split second and said, "Hell, yeah."

Of all the things that are out there, strip clubs are not my worry. In fact, I like strip clubs. I like to watch. It is fun to be a voyeur and fun and arousing to watch how powerful (yes powerful) the women are when they have a man (or woman) cowering in front of them.

As for my man - he can go alone. He can go with me. It's just not a big deal and that has to do with our relationship. Yes, I am quite confident in marriage. I do not fear my husband leaving me for one of the women whom he may see without her bra (or panties) on. I mean, Britney Spears isn't a stripper and we all saw her wardrobe malfunction omission last week. Turn on any cable station and there are women (and men) in various states of undress. You technically don't need a strip club to see breasts.

And let's be perfectly clear here. Most men go to strip clubs with their friends so that they can act like little boys. Yes, they may be ogling some boobs here and there, but for the most part, they are having a boys' night - away from the stresses of work, life, and yes, home. A strip club may just provide the backdrop - men know that the majority of women don't hang around there. It's sort of a safe spot for long as they are up front about it with their partners.

If a woman thinks that her partner is going to cheat with the stripper - there may be an underlying trust issue going on here. This is why you need to talk to your partners about your concerns or issues with these clubs - but you also don't want to be perceived as suspicious. No matter how wonderful your partner is, he/she doesn't want you thinking that they aren't trustworthy.

And your thoughts on the matter?

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