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Was Harry Right?

Can men and women really be friends? That's the question I was asked on The Today Show last week. You know what I said?

I said, "Definitely, yes."

Granted, the subject technically was: Can men and women be friends even if one of them is married? Either way, the same rules apply. Our friends enrich our lives. They make us who we are and that obvious ly served as an asset for us in the minds of our partner or spouse.

I don't get what the big deal is. I have always had many male friends. I love hanging out with them, and they give me an interesting perspective on males. Even these days when I travel to LA (without my husband), I spend time with my M.F. ("male friend"). And you know what, my husband doesn't care.

I know, I know, jealousy is a powerful thing. And sometimes it may feel good to have someone worrying about you. But only for a moment. Jealousy can really get on a person's nerves, because at some point, extreme jealousy implies that there may be something to worry about. If you think that we can't - or worse, won't want to - resist our friends' sexual advances, we have some serious trust issues in this relationship.

So I say, the more the merrier. Friends are good for us - and really, who cares if they are male or female? 

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It's interesting, sometimes I meet people who don't really have opposite sex friends, and they don't quite believe it's possible. I have a film short where the two characters are roommates - a girl and a guy - and they have this close relationship. I showed it to one guy, and I could see in his face he didn't buy it. And yet, I have male friends and have had a male roommate that I am that close to.

It's strange from this side, because like you, I just don't get what the big deal is.

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